The seven signs
To self-sabotaging behaviors
You have problem Achieve your goals?
Feels something Blocker The way?
Find yourself does not do Some of the things you know you need to do?
You may be Victim of sabotage - Self-sabotage.
How do you know, and what can you do about it?
1. Focusing on what is not working, wrong or missing in your life
problem: Notice how often you talk and think about what doesn't work,
Wrong, or missing in your life. It just pulls more of the stuff you don't want.
action: Ask yourself a new question: "What works well?" Or "What works in my life?"
You'll start to notice all the things, no matter how small, that work well.
Keep a testimonial journal and write down everything that works,
And so you will attract more things that work well in your life.
2. Be stuck in fear
problem: Do you worry a lot about the future and what might happen?
Do you think about your fears so much that you are paralyzed and do not take action because of the fear of what will happen?
action: It's time to focus on the present.
We cannot predict other people's future or behaviors.
All we can control is ourselves, here and now. Ask yourself the question: "What's the worst thing that can happen?"
Then, let go and know that we rarely created the scripts in our imagination,
Really exist. Take a moment to put things into perspective by writing things you can't change,
The things you want to change, and accept that the universe will take care of the rest.
3. Feeling you have no value
problem: Are you forgetting all your accomplishments?
If you are obsessed with your past or lack of success or lack of achievement,
Then you will be stuck focusing on how much you are missing as a person.
If you are often critical of yourself or unable to receive compliments,
This is a clear sign that you have fallen into this trap.
action: You can choose to pay attention to what you are doing well and the things you can be proud of,
No matter how small they may appear. Every day you will keep a record of what you are saying about yourself.
Cherish yourself for at least 5 things every day that you did well.
Each day, you will compliment yourself on something you have done that you feel good about and receive compliments from others.
4. Compare yourself to others
problem: Do you constantly compare yourself to others and then feel bad?
Comparison does not motivate you to do more or better,
But makes us think we are not good enough and we never will be.
action: Write down 5 qualities you love about yourself.
And now write down what is the thing you value most in your life.
Follow this rule: Always compete with yourself - strive to improve your previous score.
5. Self-sabotage - Get what you want and then lose it
problem: Don't you believe you deserve to get what you want?
When you get what you want, why do you usually lose it?
What’s the real story beneath the surface - you might think you’re not good enough to get it.
action: Make a note of all the things you have achieved that have disappeared.
Just pay attention to them without judgment. How did they make you feel?
What is the limiting belief you have that tells you within yourself, why can't you get what you want?
Be quiet, and listen to it. Write down how you felt when you had what you wanted.
Write down how you feel now without it. And now write "Faith Bridge":
AA tiny counter that feels a little better than you feel right now.
Each week you will create a new "bridge belief", no matter how small,
That you can really believe in. By using these bridges as milestones,
You will slowly change your limiting beliefs.
6. You distance yourself from relationships
problem: Do you always feel that something is missing from your relationships or find fault with the other person?
Maybe you're afraid of intimacy. Below the surface, there is usually a fear of abandonment or exposure fear, which makes you perceive distance from others.
action: You will create a list of qualities that you value in a relationship and the qualities you want to attract in your partner.
Express what you want and don't want to the other person and allow them to express the same to you.
You will create time to evaluate the other party on a regular basis. Notice when you feel scared.
Do not try to keep the emotions away. Know that the emotions are there and that's okay.
And in this moment, focus on what feels good about the relationship.
7. Lack of purpose
problem: Do you feel you have no purpose in life?
action: Write down all the things that matter to you - the things you want to create in your life.
And now write down what you want to contribute to the world. From the things you wrote,
Make a mission statement for yourself and read it every day. Start creating something in your life When
Love and smile,
The key to the high method ™Energy Sync
Energetic Sync ™ between The subconscious mind
Former Mental Coach of Maccabi Tel Aviv Players,
TV show "The Mirror" on Channel 10,
And author of the book "The Secret of Human Mechanism"